Get Serious.

When is it time to Get Serious?

How many dates or encounters are required before you know it’s time to get serious? Is once enough or a dozen?

And what does it mean when we say we want to get serious? To me it implies that this is IT. This is the relationship we want to focus our attention on.  This is the one we want to believe will take us to happily ever after.

But do we really need to get serious for a relationship to work?  Should a relationship be work? Shouldn’t it be fun and enjoyable? I’ve been in relationships that I had to work at –  but they didn’t work. If I’m in a relationship and I have to work at it – it must mean it’s not working. I’m no longer working on my relationships. Now, I’m having fun.

What about love at first sight? Is that a myth? Fact or Fiction?

I believe in love at first sight. I believe that sometimes you just know this is someone special. This one clicks. There are billions of people in the world, and we may have dozens of friends, but it’s rare when we meet that one special person who just feels right, the one who curls our toes from the moment we meet.

I’ve felt it, more than once in my life. And whenever I acted on that feeling it always proved to have wings. It didn’t necessary mean I had met my soulmate, my one and only, the love of my life, but at the time they were always Mr. Right, or rather Mr. Rightnow, as the case may be. From the first meeting we made a connection that went beyond casual friends, and they always made an impact on my life.

The following is an excerpt from my next book Somewhere To Belong, sequel to Return In Time:

“Okay, so tell me, do you think it’s possible to fall in love at first sight – or something close to that?”

Souyer cast a sideways glance at Daniel. “That’s one of the funny things about love. Usually, the best time to fall in love is at first sight.”

The old man’s answer surprised Daniel. “Really? You don’t think there’s some advantage in taking your time, getting to know a woman first to find out if she’s right for you?” He voiced his concerns even though he found Souyer’s comment curiously reassuring.

“Aye, and isn’t the only reason you’d be taking that time is because she appealed to you from the moment you met? Oh, it may take some time before the realization settles in completely and makes its self-known, but from my observations, as well as my own experience, either it’s there or it’s not. Wishful thinking will no make it happen – nor make it go away.”

Daniel could see the logic of the druid’s advice. Even a long, drawn out romance was likely to start with the all-important first impression. Either the spark was there, or it wasn’t. Still, he worried that his attraction to Kayla could just be a heavy dose of lust at first sight, infatuation, or even a simple case of wanting what he couldn’t have.  The allure of the taboo was too strong not to be considered.

He thought about the moment he had first laid eyes on her as she was bending over him along the river road, backlit by the sun. He’d known even then that he felt an uncommon connection between them. A feeling of recognition stirred somewhere deep in his soul, as if he was aware he was meeting someone special. He had called her an angel.

Relationships do that to us. They transform us. They create the Alchemy of Intimacy.

Enjoy always, T

Creating Life.

We are here to create our lives.

We are here to create, and create and create some more. Whether its a building, a bridge, cars, clothes, books, blogs or romance – we humans create.

Every moment of every day we are creating our lives. We can not stop the process. We are regular creating machines. Even if the only thing we are creating is our state of mind – our state of being – we are creating. It’s just who we are.  It’s what we do.

Our subconscious is where our magic lives.  When I saw that statement, I knew exactly what it meant (I think). My best creations are nurtured and birthed by my subconscious mind. A place where I can simply allow my thoughts to float in blissful wonder to be nurtured by non-judgmental creativity.

Thankfully for me creating feels so darn good. I’m at my best when I’m creating. When I’m writing and I’m in the flow of creation, life is grand. I’m feeling my best. I breath deep and know I am creating this moment, this story, this life.

And ain’t life grand?

Enjoy always, T

Romance of Cars.

Some cars convey  a romantic image. By their very design they’re sleek and sexy. Watch any movie and you can usually pick out the romantic lead by the car he drives. Same goes for the good guys, bad guys and the woman in distress.

If you’re writing a romance novel, it’s a lot better if the sexy, romantic hero drives a Ferrari, Porsche, Jaguar or even a Rolls-Royce (in which case he probably has a driver). A nice sexy sports car like a Fiat, Alfa Romeo, or a Triumph is also acceptable. If you’re going for class and rich you could throw in an Aston Martin

The romantic lead should not be shown driving a Daihatsu, Buick or Mitsubishi. And heaven forbid he drives an Oldsmobile. Come on the name just doesn’t conjure up romance. Speaking of names…..

Sometime cars have names that convey romance. I’m not talking about the actual image of the car, just the name (i.e. model type). The most obvious to me is the Highlander. I wrote about a Scottish Highlander and I certainly like reading about them. The Highlander is a big ole SUV so it would be a fine fit for a Scottish laird. Highlander tops my list.

I also like the name Quest. Although the practical mini van has very little to recommend it as romantic, I can just imagine a few burly warriors throwing their swords, shields and gear in the back cargo hold and heading off on a QUEST to rescue a damsel in distress.

For a contemporary novel, I can see how a Fit, Focus, Intrigue or Aspire might make the list for a romantic image.

If you’re looking for a good romantic local we have Montana,  Monte Carlo, Malibu, Tacoma (like Sleepless In Seattle), Oasis (as in Midnight at the Oasis) New Yorker, Park Ave and Newport.

For the paranormal crowd we could use Aries, Taurus, Saturn, Mercury, Equinox and Mystique.

I also like the sound of  Challenger, Charger, Conquest and Odyssey. All rather warrior and alpha-male sounding.

Speaking of alpha-male, there’s a whole list of cars with names that work well as job titles, such as Comanche, Aviator, Navigator, Pilot, Ranger, Trooper and of course, Escort (gotta love that one!).

If we want to hit the Regency period we can use a Regency (duh), Regal, Imperial, LaBaron or Marquis, and throw in Cavalier for good measure.

A few others I like, just for fun and sex-appeal are Lancer, Legend, and Encore, as in give me more…..

But two of my all time favorites are the 57′ T-Bird with opera windows and the classic Ford Mustang, one of the most successful muscle car names of all times. In my next novel, Somewhere To Belong, my romantic lead, Daniel, drives a classic candy red Mustang, so you already know he’s a Rebel.

I drive a PT Cruiser. It has classic styling with a California beach image, especially if it’s a woody. I’m a little old fashion and a lot California girl.

So, what does your (dream) car say about you? Sleek and sexy, warrior, alpha-male, high style, rich or classic? Inquiring minds want to know.

Enjoy Always, T

The romance of romance.

I love a good romance story. Real or fictional

I’ve been reading romance for years, decades. It’s best if you don’t ask how many….

I have boxes full of my ‘keepers,’ romance stories that I’ve read and keep in case I ever want to read them again. As you can guess, I tend to like Scottish historicals, time-travel adventures, fairies, elves and wizards. Some of my favorite authors are: Janet Chapman, Melissa Mayhue, Monica McCarty and Karen Marie Moning. I know because I just looked in one of my keeper boxes. These women are my heroes. They’ve done great things. They’ve written romance stories that people (mostly women) want to read. I should be so lucky.

I’ve always enjoyed good loving and sweet romance. When I meet a new couple for the first time I like to ask them how they met. Lots of people have really good stories. In future blogs maybe I’ll share a few. I like watching couples interact.  NO, not like THAT, I mean in public. I take notice of how a couple interacts with each other in public, like in restaurants, on public transportation or even just walking down the street. Body language speaks if we just listen. We hear it with our eyes.

Many years ago when my marriage was coming to an end (yes folks, I have been married and divorced! It was hard but I did survive, thank you very much) I was accused of being too romantic, that I was looking for romantic love, not the stuff of real life. Darn right I was. But here’s the catch, at least for me, I believe that romantic love is the stuff of real life. It’s been my real life for the last five years and still going strong. And let me tell you, I have no plans on giving up on my romantic love life.

After finding the romantic love of my life it was easier for me to write romance. Now I know what it feels like and it just seems natural. I really like a good romance story. I really believe in the value of two people falling in love. It’s what we’re all looking for, that happily ever after. It make our world a better place.

I believe romance stories aren’t just about kiss-face and boy meet girl (or vice-verse). It’s about the personal transformation that only relationships can provide. Its about the lives that are affected by these two people. A good and right relationship can change the whole direction of a person’s life in incredibly positive ways.

That’s why I write romance. There’s enough violence, and sadness, and pain in the world. I don’t need to add to the trash heap with my writing. I want to show the world love, and all the joy that love can bring. I’m a hopeful romantic and proud of it.

BTW, I have read stories about vampires or werewolves and I know I don’t like them. I don’t like violence. I don’t do violence. I don’t write about violence. Really, isn’t there enough ‘real’ violence in the world without  making up stories about it. Please….. Well, go ahead and write what you want, just don’t expect me to read it. Or if I do, it won’t go in my keeper box.

Have you read any good romance lately?? Try Return In Time. I hear it has a happy ending.

Enjoy always,  T

Three little words.

So often, it just takes three little words to change our day and even our lives.

Life is good.

Look for the good and you’ll find the good, look for the bad and you’ll find the bad. If I think I’m have a bad day I only need to remind myself that…. Life is good.

Do your best.

Sometimes it helps to remember that at any given time, on any given day, I’m doing the best I can with who I am. We are all doing our best, what ever that may be. And as we all know, sometimes our best is better than others. So go out there and…. Do your best.

Go for it.

The greatest risk is the risk not taken. When fear threatens to hold us back from our greater good, it helps to push ourselves forward …. Go for it.

I love you.

Three of the most powerful words. They have the ability to change our day, and certainly our lives. Don’t hold back, say them often. Say them to yourself. Right here, right now, tell yourself ….. I love you.

Enjoy always,  T