Magical Musings Mondays – The Romance of Travel.

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Each day is full of possibilities.

What makes travel romantic?

It’s the excitement of discovery. It’s the call of the open road armed with only a road map (or GPS) and a vague idea of where you’re going. Especially when you aren’t on a ‘guided tour’ and are traveling pretty much our own. Sometimes scary, sometimes pretty exciting.

Even the most detailed map is only an indication of what you will truly experience along the way. It can tell you where is the next turn in the road, but it can’t tell you what you will find there or how you’ll react when you take that turn and find a beautiful ancient castle or a decrepit old farm house.

It’s the lure of the unknown, the path not yet taken that draws out our romantic instincts. It’s no wonder that so many romance stories include travel. I know many of mine do.

One of the most romantic aspects of any new relationship is the very newness of it, the walking into the unknown, the exploration of one another. The romantic newness of any relationship can last for a good long time, if you want it to and are willing to work at it, but somewhere along the way you’re going to find you’re no longer in the romancing stage and have moved into the state of relationship. Hopefully it’s still an exciting state with lots of sunshine and only enough rain.

I once asked a young male friend if he was dating his current female friend or if they were already a couple. He asked how was he to know? I said, when you know you’re going to see her again – and only her – then you’re a couple.

Not unlike travel, if you know you’re going to be someplace for a while, you’re no longer traveling, you’re either visiting (which is like shacking-up together) or living there (rather like being married). There something comforting about finding the right place to lay your head, and when you do, you’re no longer on the road. You’re home.

Romance and travel, they go together well, like bread and butter.

Enjoy always, T

 

How to Have a Perfect Vacation

Tip # 1:  Don’t expect to have a perfect vacation.

Travel, by its very nature is imperfect. It’s an adventure, but its not perfect. Neither is life, for that matter. There’s weather to contend with, traffic, transportation issues, other travelers and a host of other elements that are all out of your control.

The only thing that is in your control is your perception of the moment-to-moment experience and your reaction to what you perceive.

If you want to have the perfect vacation, sit back, relax, and enjoy. Be willing to take whatever comes your way with a smile, a laugh, or at least a grin. And it always helps to have an open heart.

So go ahead and make your travel plans, schedule your itinerary, and plan your agenda. Then sit back, relax, and enjoy.   Life is like that.

Enjoy Always,  T.

Grand Vacation Get-Away.

I’ve been away on vacation and it was grand. I traveled to Southern California to see my family and friends and went to the Romance Writers (RWA) national conference. All of it was grand.

I spent a lot of years living in So Calif, from the time I was in high school to about 13 years ago. Wow, have I really lived in the SF Bay area that long! My how time does fly.

Going back to the LA area was a harsh reminder of the traffic and freeways. I arranged to meet my son at the Orange County fair and it took me nearly an hour to get from Anaheim to the parking lot at the fairgrounds. Crawling would have been faster as all those cars inched along trying to get to the same place at the same time. I finally had to park outside of the fair, it was just too darn crowed.

But once inside with my son and his girl friend I had a grand time. We ate all the bad foods, drank beer, and went on the Ferris wheel, my one BIG ride for the night. We watched some folks getting tossed around on one of the more outlandish rides and I figured that wasn’t for me. Didn’t want to risk losing all that greasy fair food I’d eaten!! Not fun.

I also attended the RWA conference and had another grand time. So many wonderful, talented writers gathered together to discuss their craft and love of the written word. I pitched a book I’ve finished, I call it my fairytale, Moonlight Dreams. I think it went well and I’ll be sending the MS out to an agent and editor. I hope they like it, but honestly, I had such a grand time writing it, I’ve got to believe it will do well.

Life is grand and any time I can get out on the road to travel is destined to be a good time. Friends, family, good food and a beer at the fair. Who could ask for anything more?

Love you all, Enjoy Always, T

The Romance of Travel, close to home.

A couple of weeks ago, my beau and I took a trip to Southern California to attend a big family party for his aunt’s 75th birthday. Yeah auntie Barbara and Happy Birthday. While there I got to have lunch with my very fine son, which was a fabulous bonus to the trip. It was a warm sunny day and we went down to Second Street in Long Beach. Lovely day near the beach, good food, great company, who could ask for anything more? I even had a short time to visit with my lovely older sister. (You’re looking good, sis.)

For various work related reasons we were in Southern California for less than 24 hours. It takes about six hours to drive there from the San Francisco Bay Area where I live, so it’s reasonable to ask; why go so far for such a short visit. Answer; Because it was worth it.

It’s not about quantity, it’s about quality.

On the way home we stopped at Harris Ranch along I5. I’ve always wanted to go there but have always passed it by in favor of trying to get home as fast as possible on that long, straight stretch of interstate highway, but this time we stopped, and I’m glad we did.

We left early Sunday morning and we stopped at Harris Ranch for a late breakfast. The place is all about good ole cowboy charm and big steaks. Since it was breakfast, I passed on the steaks. Instead, I had something else that is a specialty on their menu, almond pancakes. Yummers, they were good. I only had the short stack and it was still too much to eat, but every mouth full was delightful.

My beau and I decided we would ‘pretend’ that our short turn-around trip was actually an exciting get-away to a far away land. We had fun going to a place I have not been to before and eating the ‘local’ food. It was very much like when we really do travel to far away places, like Europe, only in our own backyard (so to speak). The trip felt special, and it was – because Perception is reality and Attitude is everything.

It’s all about what’s in your heart that counts. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Instead of looking at this trip as too short, draining, a lot of driving time for a little fun time we choose to look at the trip as a great way to spend time together before beau went away on a business trip for a long week. We choose to see the trip as an opportunity to see friends and family and to try new things. We used the trip to try something new as if we were visitors from some far off place, new to this area, and experiencing it for the first time.

And you know what happened?  We laughed, we played, and we had fun.

May you find ways to bring fun and romance into everyday (or almost everyday) of your life. May you enjoy NOW, because if you can enjoy now, you can Enjoy Always. …. T

And have fun.

Romance of Travel.

Continuing on with the theme: the romance of travel – which I only hinted at in my post on Tuesday – I ask the question;

What makes travel romantic?

You there, on the left, in the red plaid kilt (ohh baby)…. Yes, bingo, it’s the unknown newness of the experience. It’s the excitement of discovery. It’s the call of the open road armed with only a road map and a vague idea of where you’re going, especially since we aren’t on a ‘guided tour’ and we’re doing this on our own. Yes folks, pretty scary, pretty exciting..

But even the most detailed map is only an indication of what you will truly experience along the way. It can tell you where’s the next turn in the road, but it can’t tell you what you will find there or how you’ll react when you take that turn and find a beautiful ancient castle or a decrepit old farm house.

Yes, it’s the lure of the unknown, the path not yet taken that draws out our romantic instincts. It’s no wonder that so many romance stories include travel. I know mine does.

One of the most romantic aspects of a new relationship is the very newness of it, the walking into the unknown, the exploration of another. The romantic newness of any relationship can last for a good long time, if you want it to and are willing to work at it, but somewhere along the way you’re going to find you’re no longer in the romancing stage and move into the state of relationship. Hopefully it’s still an exciting state with lots of sunshine and only enough rain.   (Bonus question here: Who can tell me when I used the metaphor of exploration in Return In Time?)

When the romantic high settles down then the “relationship” settles in. I once asked a young male friend if he was dating his current female friend or if they were a couple. He asked how was he to know? I said, when you know you’re going to see her again – and only her – then you’re a couple. Not unlike travel, if you know you’re going to be someplace for a while, you’re no longer traveling, you’re either visiting (which is like shacking-up together) or living there (rather like being married). There’s nothing wrong with finding the right place to lay your head, but when you do, but you’re no longer on the road.

Romance and travel, they do go together, like bread and butter. And like I said onTuesday, it’s great to travel, but it’s good to be back home.

Enjoy always, T