Looking for love in all the right places? Are you looking for exactly the right person at exactly the right time? Are you looking for that one special person that will make everything perfect? If you are – good luck with that.
I’ve always been interested in relationships, and romance and have spent much of my adult life studying personal relationships in everyday life, watching to see what works and what doesn’t. In other words, I watch people and listen to what they say and watch what they do. I’ve seen people create romance, which leads to relationships, which can lead to a lot of places.
Are you looking, OR are you creating?
You can look and look and look, and maybe you’ll find, and maybe you won’t. The fastest and best way to experience anything, whether it be romance, joy, happiness or love, yes especially love, is to create. You create it and then you have it. Quick, easy, simple.
Oh, but I hear you say, it’s not so quick, easy or simple. I can’t do that, I don’t know how. There’s a saying, If you think you can’t, you’re probably right!
So, what are you thinking? If you think it’s hard, you’re right. If you think it’s easy, because after all, love is all around us, you’re right. You get to choose. Now isn’t that good news?
Don’t get me wrong. I feel your pain, your frustration. I’ve been there and have even been known to re-visit my own private hell. Thankfully these days I keep my visits short. It doesn’t take much suffering to remind me that’s not a place I want to dwell. Makes me want to break into song….
Since my baby left me, I found a new place to dwell, it’s down at the end of lonely street, at heart-break hotel.
How do you create romance? Are you open and receptive to receiving love? Are you really? The best way to find a friend, is to be a friend. Be the one who says HI when someone new walks in the door. Don’t worry about results, don’t even think about results, just think about being friendly. And if the other person chooses not to be friendly, no sweat, no problems. Don’t take it personally. They don’t know you well enough for it to be personal. It really is them, not you. So let it go – and keep going.
You want to create romance? Start small and be a friend. Be friendly and watch. And stay open and receptive to creating the best you can be.
Enjoy always, T