Written by tricia linden

Let them go.

Relationship advice 101 – let them go.

Not so easy but very necessary. If someone significant in your life shows you, tells you or even indicates to you that they want to leave, let them go. If they don’t want to be with you, let them go.

Sounds harsh, I know, but it’s really best for both of you.

Let me ask you, why in the world would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be YOU? Why would you want to be with someone who thinks you’re less than wonderful, or not good enough? Even if they say, ‘it’s not you, it’s me,’ accept it and let them go. Trust me, you deserve better than that, lots better. Believe it.

Simple: yes. Easy: no.

I know, you’re thinking, but I like him/her, and I want him/her to like me too. Honey, you are loved, even if it’s not by them.

Sorry, tuff love news here, you can not make the other person want you. You can not make them think, do, or be anyway other than the way they are. Respect that and love them for who they are, not who you want them to be.

The only thing you can decide is who you are in relationship to who they are and what they’re doing. (Notice that nice little phrase there, in relationship?) Everything we do is in relationship to some one or some thing else besides ourselves.

Here’s another kicker (I’m full of them today). If you really do love and care for the other person, you’ll want them to be happy. It won’t be about them making you happy, that’s not their job, that’s your job. It’ll be about accepting what’s best for them, even if what’s best for them is to be with someone else.

Okay, I know I’ll ruffle a few feathers with this one. Give me your feedback. Hit me with your comments. I’d like to hear what you have to say. I’m interested.

Enjoy always, T

4 thoughts on “Let them go.”

  1. All I can say is that^ is 100% true. No, it’s not easy as I have learned….but you can only change yourself. In the past, I have tried to make another person see the destructive pattern of their behaviors and they stuck it out for a while, but ultimately it poisoned our relationship more by causing a build up of resentment.

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    1. Been there – done that too, myself. I think it’s our nature to want to make it work long after the loving is gone. Should we blame it on rose-colored glasses or refusing to believe life’s harsh realities? Perhaps a little of both.

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  2. That kind of wisdom comes with a little age. Yes, that was a compliment. The lesson you speak of is earned by experience. Letting go is often the only way we can hang on. I learned it, I lived it, and I bought a dog. Great post. -T

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