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TRUST.
TRUST in a relationship is huge.
TRUST is akin to Believing.
Have you ever felt someone’s trust? Completely?
Have you ever given someone your trust? Completely?
Can you take a moment to even imagine what that feels like?
It’s like believing in Santa Claus, or perhaps we’ll call it the spirit of Christmas. We believe good things will happen. And they do.
While they are not one and the same, trust involves unconditional love and unconditional love involves trust. Imagine saying to someone; “I trust you” instead of saying “I love you.”
What would it mean to say I trust you? Instead of thinking – I trust that you won’t hurt me, try thinking – I trust there’s nothing you can do that will hurt me.
OMG, not true, not true you shout….. Or excuse me, what did you just say?
I trust that there’s nothing you can do that will hurt me, because what trust really means is that I’m strong enough, all on my own, to love you regardless of what you think, do or say. Powerful stuff.
Think of a little baby, sweet, innocent and completely lovable. We love that little baby, unconditionally. We do not believe that baby has any intention of ‘hurting’ us. It can poop, cry, scream or smile and coo and we believe that baby is perfect. He or she is being a perfect little baby, doing the only thing it knows how to do. We trust that baby to be the best baby it can be.
But we’re grownups here. Let me use a cliché example and hope you can see the bigger picture. Imagine a man and a women, a couple, together somewhere. You get to imagine the setting and scene. A beautiful woman walks by and the man checks her out. Noticeably checks her out. You know, the whole eyes locked and following her every move checking her out. He doesn’t try to hide his appreciation of her beauty. How will the woman he’s with react?
IF she trusts that he loves her and feels safe in their relationship she will trust and accept that his ogle (appreciation of the other woman’s beauty) is just that, an ogle and nothing more.
When we’re in a relationship we don’t suddenly put blinders on and no longer see the rest of the world, nor should we. I do NOT believe I should stop looking at attractive men (or women) because I’m in a relationship. Thankfully I know my partner (my lover) is well aware that while I may look, I have no desire to touch. I’m perfectly happy with my lover and I’m not going anywhere. And if I can give him that same trust – oh what a beautiful gift we both share.
And, if your mate does look and want to touch – go read this post. Because being in love does not mean letting someone step on you.
Besides, Why in the world would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you? Please, let me know if you have a good answer to that one.
TRUST. When you have it, you let go of fear.
Believe and happy holidays.
Enjoy always, T
What’s Romantic?
I was with a group of women when I asked the question;
What’s romantic?
Some of the answers were to be expected, candlelight, roses or flowers in general, soft music, sunsets, dancing, walks on the beach. You know, the usual suspects.
But then the answers began to stretch beyond the usual and became much more interesting.
Sitting on the sofa watch a movie with the kids cuddled up between us.
Fixing dinner together.
Working on a house project together.
Traveling anywhere together.
I’m starting to see a theme here, it’s the together part. Doing stuff together can naturally be romantic.
Which led to…. Driving somewhere, anywhere… together.
Really, I asked, why driving together?
Answer: Because when we’re driving somewhere together, it’s just the two of us and we exist in our own little world where we can touch and talk about anything we want and we’re cocooned in our little world with the whole world whizzing by outside.
I have to agree, the way she described it, it sounded pretty romantic.
It made me stop to think about the most romantic scenes in my stories. I have a walking in the garden scene, a watching the sunset scene and an eating dinner by candlelight, all typical romantic scenes. But none of them compared to sitting side-by-side going down’s life highway… together.
Now isn’t that romantic?
Romance brought to you by the letter T – together.
Enjoy always, T
Romance with a letter T.
Today’s romance and relationship blog is brought to you by the letter T.
You may have noticed that I post blogs on Tuesday and Thursday. You may have noticed that the heroine of Return In Time is named Teressa. You my have noticed that I sign my posts with the letter T.
With romance in mind, let’s look at a few other things that start with the letter T.
We’ll start with the big one; Trust – there’s so much that can be said about Trust, I may have to make it a separate post, but let me just say, romance can not exist without Trust. Think about it.
Transformation – which is kin to Alchemy of Intimacy. Romance and relations have the ability to transform us from who we were to who we can become. Tell me, who do you want to be? Use the spiritual magic of transformation and the Alchemy of Intimacy to create your best.
Temptation – God (and that snide little snake of his) knows that temptation is as old as mankind and reared it’s deceptively interesting head right from the get-go. Temptation, that’s a tricky one. Sometimes it’s something we need to master and sometimes it’s the thing we give in to. Yes, very interesting.
Oh, and let us not forget – Tease – which often goes hand-in-hand with Temptation. I’m sure that one can stand on it’s own.
Time-Travel – the ability to transport ourselves to another time and place, often linked to fantasy. Now we’re talking…
Tingle – that feeling you get… well you know when you get that feeling. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you.
So tell me, what’s your favor romantic T words. Inquiring minds want to know.
Someday we’ll talk about the letters P and C. That should be interesting.
Keep a smile in your heart and -
Enjoy always, T
