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The Blessing of Experience.
Experience is a grand teacher, perhaps the best.
It’s all well and good to sit in a class room and listen to a speaker or read through a text book for all the important bits of interesting information, but in the long run, (and trust me, I’ve had a very long run) experience is the best teacher.
Before experience all you have is a concept. (Like the Big Bang Theory – I LEA that show.) I may think I’ll react a certain way in a certain circumstance, but until I experience said circumstance, I really don’t know. I only have a concept, an idea, or a theory. It’s only when the ‘circumstance’ actually happens that I really get to test my concept, idea or theory. Only then do I really know what I would really do, because I did it. Understand?? I certainly hope so. If not, then that’s okay, because that’s the experience you’re having regarding understanding this post…. but I digress.
I may think I’m a good swimmer, but what will I really experience if I fall off a raft while shooting the rapids? Or heaven forbid, off my yacht while in the middle of the ocean. I won’t know for sure until it happens. (No, I don’t really have a yacht, remember, this is still a concept.)
Once upon a time, I had a concept of what it would be like to be a published author. In particular, a published indie author. I read and read and read all about authors and the publishing industry and I was sure I knew what I was doing and what to expect. But NO, I was wrong. Not completely wrong, but fairly wrong. It’s been much better and much worse than I expected. That’s the thing about reality, it’s rarely the way we imagine it to be. It was only when I had the experience that I was able to really know how it felt – for me. And only for me. For everyone else, the experience is different.
And that’s another blessing. No matter how many times we hear about how it is for someone else, no matter how many times we image how it will be for ourselves, only the experience will provide the proof.
So I say, God Bless the Experience. It’s the only way to live. And may I suggest that you go out and have a few of your own, experiences that is.
Have fun and Enjoy Always, T
To thine own self be true.
To thine own self be true, and it must follow as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man. William Shakespeare
To thine own self be true. Harder than it sounds. To stand up for what we believe in, not what others belive in or what others would like us to believe in. Or even what’s ‘IN’ for the moment.
To thine own self be true. To ask no more of the world than we are willing to give. To know we already have all that we need. We really do have enough.
To thine own self be true. To look within for our happiness. If you are not true to yourself, you will always be looking for the next best ‘thing,’ but you won’t find it until you know you already have it. Funny how that works….. but it does.
Enjoy always, T
Home is where the heart is.
I’m back home after being away on vacation in Scotland for two weeks and life is good.
Scotland was grand, my vacation went well, all things considered, but it’s great to be back home again. Home is where the heart is.
As much as I enjoyed traveling to Scotland with my beau, by the end of the trip I was looking forward to coming home. That’s the way it is with most of my vacations, by the time they’re over I’m ready to head home. No matter how long the trip is, whether it’s four days or two weeks, my brain and body knows when it’s time to return to my comfort palace.
Home, that wonderful place where we can lay our head in peace, knowing we have built our nest and this is where we belong. Whether it’s a small studio apartment or a grand multi-room mansion, we know it’s home. I’m especially fond of my own bed, and sleeping in it.
I’ve also learned that travel, like relationships, is best when we can let ourselves go and go with the flow. Even though they speak the same language (sort of), Scotland is a foreign country. All you have to do is get into a car to be sharply reminded of this, they do drive on the ‘other side’ afterall. Thankfully my dear, sweet, brave beau took care of all the driving, and all of Scotland is safer because I didn’t try that driving on the other side thing.
Like I was saying, the vacation went well, all things considered. And while traveling one must expect that the unexpected will happen, you just never know what or when (that’s what makes it unexpected!!). Like making plans to spend one day in Amsterdam on our way over to the UK, but then checking in our luggage straight through to Glasgow and having little more than the clothes on our backs while we trudged our way through the beautiful canals in a jet-lag induced stupor. Gotta go with the flow. And laugh. Laughing always helps.
Home is where the heart is, and right now my heart is very glad to be back home.
Enjoy always, T
Let them go.
Relationship advice 101 – let them go.
Not so easy but very necessary. If someone significant in your life shows you, tells you or even indicates to you that they want to leave, let them go. If they don’t want to be with you, let them go.
Sounds harsh, I know, but it’s really best for both of you.
Let me ask you, why in the world would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be YOU? Why would you want to be with someone who thinks you’re less than wonderful, or not good enough? Even if they say, ‘it’s not you, it’s me,’ accept it and let them go. Trust me, you deserve better than that, lots better. Believe it.
Simple: yes. Easy: no.
I know, you’re thinking, but I like him/her, and I want him/her to like me too. Honey, you are loved, even if it’s not by them.
Sorry, tuff love news here, you can not make the other person want you. You can not make them think, do, or be anyway other than the way they are. Respect that and love them for who they are, not who you want them to be.
The only thing you can decide is who you are in relationship to who they are and what they’re doing. (Notice that nice little phrase there, in relationship?) Everything we do is in relationship to some one or some thing else besides ourselves.
Here’s another kicker (I’m full of them today). If you really do love and care for the other person, you’ll want them to be happy. It won’t be about them making you happy, that’s not their job, that’s your job. It’ll be about accepting what’s best for them, even if what’s best for them is to be with someone else.
Okay, I know I’ll ruffle a few feathers with this one. Give me your feedback. Hit me with your comments. I’d like to hear what you have to say. I’m interested.
Enjoy always, T
Magic carpet ride.
Writing has become A passion for me. Not THE passion, but certainly in my top five list.
Writing a book and getting it published is a thrilling journey of discovery. Throughout this process I’ve learned more about myself than I had ever expected. I’ve gained new and greater understanding of who I am and who I want to be. Some of it has been new revelations, and some of it has been scary. Some of it has confirmed previously experienced peeks in to my brain’s boudoir, (isn’t that fun?) and some of it has become new landscape where my soul can play. But always, the journey has been grand and thrilling.
When it comes to writing, romance, life or love; we can not avoid the challenges life presents us. We may try, but have you ever noticed how life’s challenges always wins that game of hide and seek. Sometimes it may end badly or not go the way we planned, but that’s the thing about reality, it rarely goes the way we imagine it. And often, that’s a good thing, because what shows up is so much more rich and challenging and interesting than our little selves could have ever imagined.
One novel published – and I’m still very much an apprentice to this craft. Much like the sorcerer’s apprentice. And much like a little wand wielding woman, I’m trying to create magic from everyday life. It certainly has been a magic carpet ride, but that’s another fairy tale.
Believe it or not, my life is based on a true story. How about yours?
Enjoy always, T
