Monthly Archives: September 2011
Three little words.
So often, it just takes three little words to change our day and even our lives.
Life is good.
Look for the good and you’ll find the good, look for the bad and you’ll find the bad. If I think I’m have a bad day I only need to remind myself that…. Life is good.
Do your best.
Sometimes it helps to remember that at any given time, on any given day, I’m doing the best I can with who I am. We are all doing our best, what ever that may be. And as we all know, sometimes our best is better than others. So go out there and…. Do your best.
Go for it.
The greatest risk is the risk not taken. When fear threatens to hold us back from our greater good, it helps to push ourselves forward …. Go for it.
I love you.
Three of the most powerful words. They have the ability to change our day, and certainly our lives. Don’t hold back, say them often. Say them to yourself. Right here, right now, tell yourself ….. I love you.
Enjoy always, T
Happy for no reason.
If you’re happy and you know it, clap your hands.
If you’re happy and you know it, clap your hands.
If you’re happy and you know, then your face will surely show it.
If you’re happy and know it, clap your hands.
A nice little children’s song. As you read those words did the melody play in your head? Of course it did. And did it lift your spirits, even just a little? I hope so.
There’s something about singing a silly song that’s just plan fun. It’s kind of like being happy for no reason. What if you sang a silly song at work?? You may want to sing it quietly to yourself, or sing it out loud, depending on your work conditions and/or your singing voice. Wouldn’t it provide a little lift to your day?
What I’m saying here, is that if you want, you can give yourself a boost and be happy at any time for no reason, just because you can. Yes, you can. Happiness has been known to make us more productive, and of course you’ll enjoy your day more being happy than not. Also, people will like being around you more. We all like happy people.
SO…. we can drag ourselves through our day, or we can sing and be happy for no reason. I’ve done both and I’m a big fan of being happy. Sometimes I have to kinda work at being happy, like singing a happy tune, but I always feel better for it.
Some say fake it until you make it. I’m not a fan of that but I’m not against it either. I prefer to practice until I get it. Practice, practice, practice. Practice until you get it and then practice some more.
And most importantly……
Enjoy always, T
Romance of Travel.
Continuing on with the theme: the romance of travel – which I only hinted at in my post on Tuesday – I ask the question;
What makes travel romantic?
You there, on the left, in the red plaid kilt (ohh baby)…. Yes, bingo, it’s the unknown newness of the experience. It’s the excitement of discovery. It’s the call of the open road armed with only a road map and a vague idea of where you’re going, especially since we aren’t on a ‘guided tour’ and we’re doing this on our own. Yes folks, pretty scary, pretty exciting..
But even the most detailed map is only an indication of what you will truly experience along the way. It can tell you where’s the next turn in the road, but it can’t tell you what you will find there or how you’ll react when you take that turn and find a beautiful ancient castle or a decrepit old farm house.
Yes, it’s the lure of the unknown, the path not yet taken that draws out our romantic instincts. It’s no wonder that so many romance stories include travel. I know mine does.
One of the most romantic aspects of a new relationship is the very newness of it, the walking into the unknown, the exploration of another. The romantic newness of any relationship can last for a good long time, if you want it to and are willing to work at it, but somewhere along the way you’re going to find you’re no longer in the romancing stage and move into the state of relationship. Hopefully it’s still an exciting state with lots of sunshine and only enough rain. (Bonus question here: Who can tell me when I used the metaphor of exploration in Return In Time?)
When the romantic high settles down then the ”relationship” settles in. I once asked a young male friend if he was dating his current female friend or if they were a couple. He asked how was he to know? I said, when you know you’re going to see her again – and only her – then you’re a couple. Not unlike travel, if you know you’re going to be someplace for a while, you’re no longer traveling, you’re either visiting (which is like shacking-up together) or living there (rather like being married). There’s nothing wrong with finding the right place to lay your head, but when you do, but you’re no longer on the road.
Romance and travel, they do go together, like bread and butter. And like I said onTuesday, it’s great to travel, but it’s good to be back home.
Enjoy always, T
Home is where the heart is.
I’m back home after being away on vacation in Scotland for two weeks and life is good.
Scotland was grand, my vacation went well, all things considered, but it’s great to be back home again. Home is where the heart is.
As much as I enjoyed traveling to Scotland with my beau, by the end of the trip I was looking forward to coming home. That’s the way it is with most of my vacations, by the time they’re over I’m ready to head home. No matter how long the trip is, whether it’s four days or two weeks, my brain and body knows when it’s time to return to my comfort palace.
Home, that wonderful place where we can lay our head in peace, knowing we have built our nest and this is where we belong. Whether it’s a small studio apartment or a grand multi-room mansion, we know it’s home. I’m especially fond of my own bed, and sleeping in it.
I’ve also learned that travel, like relationships, is best when we can let ourselves go and go with the flow. Even though they speak the same language (sort of), Scotland is a foreign country. All you have to do is get into a car to be sharply reminded of this, they do drive on the ‘other side’ afterall. Thankfully my dear, sweet, brave beau took care of all the driving, and all of Scotland is safer because I didn’t try that driving on the other side thing.
Like I was saying, the vacation went well, all things considered. And while traveling one must expect that the unexpected will happen, you just never know what or when (that’s what makes it unexpected!!). Like making plans to spend one day in Amsterdam on our way over to the UK, but then checking in our luggage straight through to Glasgow and having little more than the clothes on our backs while we trudged our way through the beautiful canals in a jet-lag induced stupor. Gotta go with the flow. And laugh. Laughing always helps.
Home is where the heart is, and right now my heart is very glad to be back home.
Enjoy always, T
Looking for Love.
Are you looking for love in all the right places? Are you looking for exactly the right person at exactly the right time? Are you looking for that one special person that will make everything perfect? If you are – good luck with that.
I have always been interested in relationships, and romance. I have spent much of my adult life studying personal relationships in everyday life, watching to see what works and what doesn’t. In other words, I watch people and listen to what they say and watch what they do. I’ve seen people create romance, which leads to relationships, which can lead to a lot of places.
Are you looking, OR are you creating?
You can look and look and look, and maybe you’ll find, and maybe you won’t. The fastest and best way to experience anything, whether it be romance, joy, happiness or love, yes especially love, is to create. You create it and then you have it. Quick, easy, simple.
Oh, but I hear you say, it’s not so quick, easy or simple. I can’t do that, I don’t know how. There’s a saying, If you think you can’t, you’re probably right!!
So, what are you thinking? If you think it’s hard, you’re right. If you think it’s easy, because after all, love is all around us, you’re right. You get to choose. Now isn’t that good news?
Don’t get me wrong. I feel your pain, your frustration. I’ve been there and have even been know to re-visit my own private hell. Thankfully these days I keep my visits short. It doesn’t take much suffering to remind me that’s not a place I want to dwell. Reminds me of a song….
Since my baby left me, I found a new place to dwell, it’s down at the end of lonely street, at heart-break hotel.
How do you create romance? Are you open and receptive to receiving love? Are you really? The best way to find a friend, is to be a friend. Be the one who says HI when someone new walks in the door. Don’t worry about results, don’t even think about results, just think about being friendly. And if the other person chooses not to be friendly, no sweat, no problems. Don’t take it personally. They don’t know you well enough for it to be personal. It really is them, not you. So let it go – and keep going.
You want to create romance? Start small and be a friend. Be friendly and watch. And stay open and receptive to creating the best you can be.
BTW, I’ll be off line for a couple of weeks. See you when I get back from Scotland!! Now how exciting is that?
Enjoy always, T
